@Villain Pony
@soundtea
I think he’s joking about how the writers seem to have forgotten
him her?
(Something about Babs’ voice or body shape makes me want to call her a him, heh…)
@Crystal Neighybánya
Depends on what you mean by “a while”. Eh, I dunno. It’s all blurry lines and how you define things. When does it go from being just your personality type to being high-functioning AS?
Four, five, six years ago I cared a lot, but that was a lot of self-discovery type stuff. Labels like that are an easy out to actually inventing yourself and deciding who you want to be - one of the reasons I don’t like the idea of people labelling themselves as much anything, be it x-sexuality, political view, hobby/obsession, mental illness, anything. You’re
you, and you decide who that is, not some label. Not to mention when you identify as a label, it solidifies something that you could otherwise change, thus restricting your own growth and/or development.
But now I don’t really care as much. As I said, it’s unclear when it goes from being a personality type that prefers to work alone, obsesses over things sometimes, puts logic over emotion, and has some social anxiety / anxiety in general, to being what you’d call high-functioning AS. I mean, I have a darn lot of the associated traits, but I can also socialize reasonably well, and even started a brony club at my university that’s got a few hundred members now.
Do you say that because of the “use it as an excuse” bit? It’s not that I’m not sympathetic, it’s just I see that kind of thing a good bit and it bothers me. Yes, mental conditions can make things a lot harder, I know all too well, but your own attitude and approach to things still makes a huge difference.
Two people can have the same level of AS, and if one works hard on social skills, they can get along in life as that oddball in the IT department everyone knows, but not too bad off. Certainly still a struggle, but they can still live a life - meanwhile, if he hadn’t worked on it, he could instead end up at home 24/7 with some fetish deviantart account dropping completely incoherent and emotionally unstable sentences everywhere.
Two people can have the same level of depression, and one can become bitter and resentful, and talk about how horrible everything is all the time, while the other can become like a sad Fluttershy - not particularly bitter, sad, yes, still, or maybe just largely numb - but otherwise not nearly as bad off as someone who didn’t even try.
Another great example is antidepressants - they level the playing field, so to speak, but they don’t make you happy - that’s still up to you. They just make it so it’s possible to feel pleasure and excitement again - but it’s still up to you to be optimistic and make that happen.
I’m not in any place to judge any individual, but as a whole, it bothers me that some people will take it as an excuse, or be bothered by something so badly that they’ll stop trying.
There was a point in time where I was basically mute in middle school, and I know another point where I could’ve gone off the deep end with obsession over a fetish, but by working through those things, instead of being that fetish addict on deviantart, I’ve made a big brony club, a lot of friends and a few very close ones, and worked with faculty in theoretical physics research, and would’ve even been working a research assistant job (got accepted to it/funding approved) this semester had my physical health not decided to be a darn issue again. I’ll probably even get married and have a family one day. All a very far cry from, and a far more meaningful existence than the dark, obsession life that I could’ve easily fallen into if I didn’t put up a stiff fight, and had caved in to some title.
Lol, so, I guess the answer to your one-line question is “maybe”? :p
Eh, I can’t turn down a moral when I’ve got one to preach. Plus, anyone who’s known me knows I have a tendency to write a lot. Now if only writing my fiction came as easily :p
But mostly, I wanted to explain how, yeah, that may have been me, but rather than being hypocritical, it’s because I’ve been there that I’m so bothered by others in similar pitfalls.